Almost every other woman lives in mortal fear of being dumped by a cheating, unfaithful boyfriend. Nothing in a committed relationship can be as painful as infidelity on the part of the one you love so much. But with a few cautious measures, it is possible to diminish that hurt and save yourself the pain, agony, heartburn and raging insult of an ugly break up.
There are a few tell tale signs that your boyfriend is cheating on you behind your back. If you can recognize those signs early on, may be you can dump the bastard and move on with your life with your dignity and self respect intact.
Your Boyfriend Doesn’t Spend Time with You
This is perhaps the most obvious sign of a boyfriend who has gone astray. He will increasingly stop spending quality time with you and will give a variety of novel excuses for canceling dates. Even when he is with you, he will come across as glum, moody, bored or unhappy, crappy or distant.
If your boyfriend isn’t so much into you anymore, not only will he spend lesser and lesser time with you, he will also refuse to answer your phone calls and text messages, he might hang up sooner and even in your august company, he will act like a very reticent man, almost as if, there is nothing more to talk about.
When your boyfriend chooses to hang out with his bunch of guy buddies instead of going out on a date with you, when he makes plans and programs for enjoyment and recreation or decides to travel somewhere with a group of friends, but gives you the cold shoulder and leaves you out of everything, it is perhaps time to get the clue and move on to greener pastures.
A boyfriend who is having an affair or is planning to dump you will hardly care whether you call him or not. If you call him repeatedly in alarm at the way things are turning out , he will complain of feeling smothered or pestered by you or he might make excuses like “I want to spend some ‘me time’ with myself and I want to be left alone”.
And even when he has finally agreed to go out on a date with you after a long time, he might seem to be in a strange hurry to leave “for some important work that just came up”. High time you got your act together and kicked such a moron out of your life for good.
Fights and Arguments
While fighting and arguing are parts and parcels of every relationship, a sudden increase in fighting, increasing use of verbally abusive, hurtful words and comments, sudden physical assault in a fit of anger are grave danger signs that your relationship is on the rocks.
If your boyfriend hits you or beats you black and blue, if he becomes increasingly confrontational and starts finding fault with you for no reason, if he magnifies your minor flaws and turns them into burning issues and insults you in public places or in front of his or your friends, if lately your boyfriend has only been hurting you and barking at you, it is perhaps time to wake up and smell the bitter coffee!
Increasing Lack of Affection
It is generally said and is also a well accepted fact that women are intuitive creatures and their sixth senses are really sharp. So, if you intuitively feel that something is wrong with your boyfriend, he seems to be less loving and less affectionate than usual, then may be you are actually right.
Lots of women who went by their gut feeling and ‘sensed’ that their boyfriends had become changed men, later found out that they were right and their boyfriends had indeed been seeing other women.
When your boyfriend loses interest in having sex with you, when he no longer cuddles you or strokes your hair, if he tells you “you have bad breath, your mouth stinks” when you want to kiss him, if he increasingly shies away from getting physically intimate with you, it is time to ring the alarm bell.
Normally, when a man is sleeping with another woman and committing adultery, his interest in getting cozy under the sheets with his rightful partner will diminish strongly.
And don’t fall for suspicious and repeated excuses like “I am feeling sick, let’s have sex some other day”. Your boyfriend is probably sleeping around and cuckolding you.
Many women, who have had to deal with cheating spouses, agree on a common point that one of the most obvious signs of a cheating partner is an overwhelming sense of unexplained guilt on his part. When your boyfriend is cuckolding you, he might avoid certain subjects pertaining to his whereabouts, he might avoid making eye contact with you or he might seem uneasy and restless for no apparent reason.
Lack of Trust
Without mutual trust, a relationship cannot thrive. Thus, if your boyfriend suddenly and rather irrationally, stops trusting you, becomes suspicious about your loyalty towards him or accuses YOU of cheating on him and philandering around, there are high chances that he is acting out of his guilt burden and trying to justify his infidelity by putting his blame on you.
Just as a cheating boyfriend might be suspicious about your behavior and fidelity, similarly, he might also engage in suspicious behaviors such as going out of the room to attend ‘important’ phone calls, always having a call history or a call register that is regularly blanked out, ignoring certain phone calls when he cant escape from your presence and so on.
As a girlfriend you have every right to check his mobile phone. But when your boyfriend does not allow you to touch his phone, indulges in hush hush text messaging or gets repeated phone calls from an unknown number, it is time you got suspicious.
A cheating boyfriend might also avoid going to his favorite watering holes or to parties or restaurants which were previously his favorites. If he is constantly edgy about taking you out to certain public places, but can’t provide any reasonable explanation behind this sudden weird behavior, it is perhaps time to hit the panic button.
However, I personally feel, the best way to catch if your boyfriend is cheating on you is to check if he is lying or not. Boyfriends with roving eyes and libidinous impulses are always ready with their cock and bull stories. A boyfriend with a questionable character will lie to you, to your family members and to your friends regarding the same matter.
And who knows, if your boyfriend had been lying to you constantly to cover up his nefarious activities! It is best to dump an incorrigible liar and philanderer before he dumps you.