Sunday, April 24, 2011

"It’s either we breakup or get married"

So, earlier I had watched this video about relationships stages. In this video, the story ended up in a breakup. I was kinda amazed and felt like I have to blog this because recently, I have heard lots of breakup issues of my friends, of some other people.

“Whether taking each other for granted, or people changing over time, the bottom line is someone stops trying.” This has caught my attention. I already saw this line from tumblr and twitter but I had no idea that this came from a video uploaded in youtube. Recently, I had through fights with my boyfriend that I almost ended up changing myself to make him realize that I felt so unloved. But he proved me wrong though. And yes, I do believe that it is possible that someone really stops trying especially if one feels unloved by that someone he/she truly loves. And I’m really terrified to accept the fact that indeed, people change over time or that people may take each other for granted. I’m scared to feel that future pain if ever that occurs to me. How will I deal with it? How would I handle it? Could I survive? Will I ever be able to move on?

Of course, I’m not expecting any heartbreaks in the future or worst, break up. But watching this video made me imagine all possible things that could happen, especially if you are in a serious relationship. In the video, the girl asked, “Do you realize that there are only 2 options for our future together? It’s either we breakup or get married.” It’s true. If you’re in a relationship, it’s either you go on and make your relationship work or accept that it’s the end of the road and start being strangers again. It’s either you continue falling in love with each other or stop because there’s no love anymore.

There are fortunate relationships that even though they got separated through breakups, they we’re able to be together again and see things as love is sweeter the second time around. Some relationships are very much fortunate because they have been together for years and they ended up facing the altar with no breakups. But some are unlucky and somehow strong enough to just admit that there’s no way they could make it and to just carry out their separate ways. Both must learn to let go and believe that God has reasons in doing and allowing such. Both must learn to move on. It’s not an easy task but somehow, you could do it. It takes time. It’s not about who left or who was left behind. Of course, the one who left can move on easily at least I believe it is. But bottom line is, both has to undergo the process called “moving on” because memories will keep you together forever whether you are the one who left or the one who was left behind.


  1. and since when did you learn to be a love guru? hahaha! but seriously, in all relationship that we've been through, we can feel the fear of loosing that person for the belief that they're the one destined for us. no mater how you try to solve things, hold on and fight, there are certain things which are not meant to be and that is the reality we have to accept.

    Good things for apart so that Better things can come together - according to Marilyn Monroe and I agree. Just my thought though!

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