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Wednesday, April 4, 2012
According to the research, a given love partner will eventually cease to trigger a powerful dopamine release in the other partner's brain. That doesn't mean that sexual interest necessarily vanishes (though it can), but the thrill factor is diminished. If, however, a new partner is introduced, hello dopamine! This is called the "Coolidge Effect", and it's what drives some to perpetually seek new mates. It's this dynamic that makes biologists doubt the biological basis for monogamy. We're fighting the chemical urge to get a new dopamine hit. This can also explain the urge to take up new and risky activities later in married life.
Let’s admit it, when you are in a long-term relationship, there will be times that it becomes boring which is somehow inevitable for some. The love is still there, but the spark is no longer there. There’s a difference, right? Especially when there’s a guy who serves as your inspiration slash distraction to your well-founded concentration. There really are temptations around; it’s just up to you how to handle them.
Recently, we’ve been through ups and downs, arguments here and there, jealousy, overprotectiveness, and possessiveness. I admit that I had been once a nagger and possessive girlfriend. I would always check his phones and facebook account, get mad about girls talking or flirting with him, etc. But if you were able to read my previous post about realizations, I mentioned there that I needed a life. A life that is not dependent with a man, a life that is free but still loving. That is why I tried to lessen that attitude of mine. I want him to breathe some air as much as I want myself also. But it seems like he became used to what I was before that’s why he’s also doing the same thing to me. And I hate it. It’s my fault, I know. So I have to stop.
Another thing is that, there is someone who makes me smile. Someone who is unfortunately the wrong person. Someone whom I know I’ll regret in the end. Silly it is, for just a couple of days of talking to him, I felt very comfortable with him. But I had to stop. Not only because I am in a relationship, but because I know he has someone in his heart. Someone whom he truly loves. We’re even both aware that he’s fond of flirting which really made me think twice if what I am doing is worth it or not. The crazy thing is that I can’t resist. Not that I can’t resist of liking him, but can’t resist of talking to him every single day. Sometimes, I do wish to become that girl he’s dying for, to become the girl he’s willing to give up everything, to become the reason why a player quits his game. But I must stop.
Earlier, I was in a mall alone. I was thinking what to do, what is right and what is wrong, what must be stopped and what must be pursued. I became unfair to him. I was able to neglect for some time our relationship because of one guy. And I became unfair to myself because I let myself become attached to the wrong person. My friends told me “Panandaliang kilig lang yan, mahal mo yung isa”. And I admit that as time goes by, I was able to sense that he’s not that sincere and that he only wanted is to just fool around. Charge to experience!
I am choosing no one for that is the right thing to do. It would be unfair to him if I continue our relationship where I am still in the midst of my distractions. And it would be unfair for me to continue being attached to someone I know will never be mine and continuing this will only be the biggest mistake of my life. And I can’t carry on something I would regret in the end. For the meantime, I must do some soul searching and focus on my career. If we are destined to be together again, it will be. In time.
Friday, March 9, 2012
“Social inequality refers to a situation in which individual groups in a society do not have equal social status, social class, and social circle. Areas of social inequality include voting rights, freedom of speech and assembly, the extent of property rights and access to education, health, quality housing, traveling, transportation, vacationing and other social goods and services.” – Wikipedia
As I travel back and forth from Cavite to Manila, I came to realize how fortunate I was to have a good living. I can eat 3 times a day, I have a house to live with full of appliances, few more weeks and I’ll be graduating from college, I have clothes to wear, and I have my family to be with.
I am fond of looking outside the window with my ipod on whenever I am riding in a bus. Something caught my attention somewhere around Sucat. There are astonishing vast buildings, erudite villages and warehouses of different manufacturing firms. But what really caught my attention and made me felt the guilt was the fact that beside these fabulous substructures lays the houses of these marginalized people. Unfair, indeed. The poor get poorer and the rich get richer. Rich people have villas, haciendas, condominiums while the poor can’t even have a decent home to live, not even a clean and safe environment for their families. Rich people have their own malls while the poor can’t even enter a mall because they are suspected as robbers. Rich people buy loads of branded and imported clothes while poor people can’t even wear some nice clothes. Worst, some of them don’t have any clothes to wear. Rich people eat in fine restaurants and have money to spend for buffet lunch and dinner while poor people eat left-overs from garbage or nothing at all. Rich people have businesses and investments while poor people work to have something to eat on their table or “isang kahig, isang tuka”. Rich people spend their free time in gyms, spas, and parties while poor people don’t even have a free time in search for food, for money and for work. Rich people are studying in reputable universities and colleges here and abroad, finishing their masters and doctorate degrees while poor people can’t even afford to go to school and finish their studies.
I believe that rich people were made not to be richer but to help unfortunate people. They were blessed with intelligence, power, and money to support the needy ones. We can’t let government alone to do it. We exist because we have works to do, we have tasks to accomplish. And that is to help each other especially those in need, at least help them to have that foundation to start their lives right.
Saturday, January 21, 2012
I really don’t know why almost all my friends make me feel that I am a ‘Love Guru’ or some kind of an expert when it comes to relationships. Or is it just me who loves giving unsolicited advice?
I’ve gone through 3 relationships. It’s actually 4 but screw the first one, it was like so whatever. The first one (which was actually the 2nd one) happened during my high school days. I was then a junior and my ex was a senior. He just happened to be the SCO President and the captain ball of the basketball team and I happened to be the captain ball of the volleyball team. Then, I broke up with him when I turned college. Ganda ko eh! Okay, nuff said.
Second, was someone I met during my PE class. He’s a UST Civil Engineering student. He was my karma. Need I to say more?
Third and my current boyfriend is someone from our village. He’s a family friend and schoolmate way back high school and elementary. We’ve been together for more than a year.
I thought and I guess, others thought also that these relationships made me more mature. I guess not. I thought I know everything, how to handle things, emotions. I realize I am nowhere near maturity. Yes, I still act like a child dependent to his dad and I tend to be a hopeless romantic at times. I don’t know how I will learn these things; to be emotionally-independent, maturity, and no dramas.
You could tell that I’m really good in making small issues into big things that will cause a fight that will last for days or almost a week. I admit that. I tried to avoid doing it but there’s something in me I didn’t know what it is. Expectations, maybe. But seriously, I am a drama-queen-wannabe. Well, unintentionally. I really don’t know what I want. I really don’t know what I am looking for. But one thing’s for sure, I REALLY SHOULD GET A LIFE.